Last Sunday, March 24th, was the 3 year anniversary of when The Warrior and I first “met.” I say it that way because “meeting” was me finding The Warrior’s profile on a dating website and sending him a message. But there is SO much more to the story than just that fact. So for the next few Military Mondays, I wanted to share our military love story.
Perhaps I need to open myself up to other methods of meeting people, such as a good online Catholic dating website. We shall see. I feel like I’m really at that “marriageable age,” that I really want to start my own family. And as silly as this sounds, I don’t want to move from home to my own apartment, and then get married and move again. I also wonder if I’ll stay in Texas…
~Journal entry, February 8, 2010
“Malori, you should check out a Catholic singles site! These things really aren’t what you think they are.”
I was chatting on Facebook one January evening in 2010 with one of my best friends, Margaret. She was glowing with excitement over meeting a wonderful young man on eHarmony.com and they were having their first date soon. (They are now married.)
“Yeah, yeah…I dunno, it’s sketchy!” I replied, although perhaps that was an insulting thing to say to her. However, she was too excited about meeting this guy to care about what I had just said.
“Well, just pray about it. You might change your mind.”
“Yeah okay, whatever…I’ll pray about it.” What she did not know is that about a year ago, I had joined a reputable website called AveMariaSingles.com. On March 24, 2009, the website founder, Anthony Buono, wrote an article for the Catholic News Agency online entitled “What Singles Can Learn from St. Joseph.” I was very inspired by his article, and from that day forward I began praying intensely for my future husband by reciting the St. Joseph Litany every day. That article is how I discovered AMS, and I thought it wouldn’t hurt to join, especially since I could take advantage of the cheap student price! However, later in the spring, I made my account inactive so no one could see my profile. It didn’t seem like the right time, and since I was moving back to Texas after college graduation in Maryland, I figured I would meet a nice Catholic boy in real life, like a normal person. After all, I wasn’t SO desperate for a husband that I needed to stalk men online!
Margaret had planted a seed, and perhaps it wasn’t exactly sketchy…but is it really for me? I questioned. Whenever we talked, Margaret would ask me, “So have you joined a Catholic singles site yet?”
“No, not yet…I’m still praying about it,” I’d answer, which was the truth. I wrestled with this subject for an intense month.
When I’d journal and pray, I would feel peaceful about rejoining AMS. Yes, I would do it! Then I would sit down at my computer after coming home from work, type in AveMariaSingles.com, go to my account…and suddenly be gripped with fear. I went back and forth with the peace vs. fear factors. I was afraid of the unknown. But I also kept praying for my future husband. I knew he was out there somewhere, but I had no idea when or how I might meet him. On Valentine’s Day, I wrote:
Lord, my special intention this Valentine’s Day is that my future husband is blessed and that we may find each other soon!
Finally, during the last week of February, I embraced the courage that God had given me and began re-writing my profile. I took my time to carefully type everything and upload a new photo, and on Wednesday, February 24, I went live!
Little did I know that I would be blessed beyond measure exactly one month later.
Check back next Monday for the next installment!